2007年11月20日 星期二

愛之語 (Five Love Languages)

Recently I'm reading this book online.

so far I'm in the first few chapters.

I think I'm struggling in some similar situations from the book.

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一旦恋爱的经验跑到一个程度(请记得,平均一般的恋爱经验仅存活两年),我们就又回到真实的世界,开始维护起自己来;所表达的愿望,开始不同于对方。他想要性关系,她太累了;想要买部新车,她说:「荒唐」;她想要拜望她的父母,他说:「我不要花那么多时间跟你家人在一起。」他想要参加垒球赛,她说:「你爱垒球胜过爱我。」渐渐地,亲密的幻觉消失了;个人的愿望、情绪、想法和行为模式全现出原形。他们是两个不同的个体,心思并没有融合在一起,情绪也只有在爱的海洋中混和一会儿罢了。现在,现实的波浪开始分离他们,使他们跨出情网。这个时候,他们或者退缩、分居、离婚,开始寻求一个新的恋爱经验;或者在神魂颠倒期的陶醉感清醒之际,开始学习彼此相爱的艰难功课。

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当你配偶的情绪爱箱满了之时,他在你的爱里会觉得安全;整个世界看起来明亮了,他会走出来,发挥生命中最高的潜力。可是,当爱箱空了的时候,他会觉得被利用,而不是被爱;整个世界看起来黯然无光,他变得似乎无法在社会上发挥出原有潜力。

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2007年11月19日 星期一

2 Months and 12 Days...

only 2 months and 12 days left... 

I'm kinda nervous now...

I start to panic...

recently Joseph and I all feel stressed...

not only because the wedding, but also our new life.

even though we almost sent out all the invitations, I am still not sure about it....

Am I really ready for a marriage?

I really dunno what to do and how to do...smile_eyeroll

2007年11月15日 星期四

Kitchen Remodeling...

well... even though it's very tiring, we still learned a lot...

The contractor finished the flooring job past Sunday.

Overall it's ok, but I think their closing job is kinda sloppy...smile_sad

The kitchen tiles are not that straight....smile_confused

Anyway, we change another contractor for kitchen remodeling...

We want to upgrade our kitchen this time.

We went to a lot of granite stores recently.

and here'r from my final list....

Black Galaxy

Uba Tuba

They look kinda dark, right?

so far we haven't decided to upgrade it or not...

It depends on the quotes.

Will update it later once we decide to do it or not...

2007年11月5日 星期一

Designing Floor...

I found a good website to estimate the amount of tiles we need.

This is the one I like.

However, I want it a little bit different so I drew this one.

This is our utility room. The black line on the top left is door.

W stands for washer and D stands for dryer.

The floor will be like this one. The contractor will put "Texas Beige" tiles on the purple areas and "Canyon" tiles on the small white areas.

Hope this will look good...(It'd better look good... the contractor charges us $200 more for this extra job...money)

Shop for Flooring...

Past 2 weeks, Joseph has been requesting quotes on our new house's flooring.

Finally we decided to hire a contractor to do it. This contractor is cheaper and we need to buy the material we want.

Last Saturday, we went to 2 Home Depot, 1 Lowes, and 1 tile store.

Yesterday, we went to another Home Depot and Lowes near our new house.

Finally we found the one I like and within our budget. (Joseph said I'm too picky...)

Here's our laminate floor. (Pergo Springdale Dark Cherry Glueless Laminate Flooring) 

Here'r our tiles. (12"x12" Texas Beige and 6"x6" Canyon)

 

We bought all these in Lowes. (This is a nice store.)

Right now Lowes has 15% off on in-stock laminate floor.

Plus Joseph got a 10% off coupon from har.com.

This is really a cool experience. It is too bad that we do not have enough time and budget to shop for more.

I believe this is a good opportunity for a first-house owner like us.

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Because of this experience, we notice our difference more.

Joseph cares more about the value and practicability but I am more artistic.

so we came to an agreement.

He set the limit and I make decision.